indiogrl's Cancer Blog
October 13, 2008
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Well interesting weekend for me. I caught my almost 10 year old daughter stealing. YES! We went to a nearby store and she saw a pocket scarf she liked. It didn’t have any price tag on it or any tags at all. I told her to put it down.
Later that evening what do I find in my house? Yes, the scarf. She admitted to taking it. Actually put it under her shirt to get it out of the store ! OMG why did she do this?
So for punishment, she has to go to bed at 7:30 all week, no treats, no allowance, no TV and no computer. I feel this needs immediate harsh treatment.
I realize this has nothing to do with cancer but I am just shocked that she would do this and need to get it off my chest. She turns 10 this Friday and we have a birthday party planned. Nothing fancy just a party in the basement with a few of her friends. I just do not understand why she took that scarf. It was just a plain white scarf about 12 inches square, nothing special. What’s going on with her?
She is normally a great kid, very smart (actually started school at the age of 3 at a school for gifted kids) and now is in 5th grade at the public school. She of course had a very hard time while I was sick but that seems to be SO behind her now, in a way that I envy, actually.
Is the punishmenet enough? Of course we discussed why it was wrong to do and the consequences of stealing. But this scares me.
Thanks for your support -
Sorry, I am not a parent so my advice comes without experience in these things. It seems you are giving the right punishment and I would actually deduct the value of the scarf from her allowance. I am presuming she gets one. That way, she might or more likely understand the value, where it hits most, in her pocket. Also just talking to her about value of things to others, and that if everyone stole, there wouldn’t be much left to buy. Just a thought.
Weezie
Hi Heidi,
Kids do the darnedest (is that even a word?) things, don’t thing? My kids are a bit older, my son is 18 & my daughter is 15. I have never had to deal with the stealing issue, though there have been other teenage issues that have come my way.
I think your punishment is a good one. On top of that I would take her back down to the store and have her return the scarf. This will be a bit embarrassing for her, but I bet she thinks twice about doing it again.
Just my two cents worth. :o) You sound like a great mom. Have a beautiful day!
Monica
Hi Heidi,, yes i can just see the surprise of you when you learned of this..It is something that 90% of the children do, whether its a scarf or just a candi…I have done it when i was small took some candies from a store and the worse thing that happened to me was that i had to go and return it to the owner,,, no matter what age you are ,, what a humiliating thing to do.. i was so scared,, yes it was a good lesson for me to learn,,, You did well in giving her a harsh punishment.. it will teach her somethning ..
I can just imagine how devasted you must have been
but you have made the right decision.. good for you/ Yes to us it is the worse thing,,, but really if that is the worse that she ever does well consider yourslef fortunate that she really is a good kid.. We all make mistakes,, and i bekieve this will be a valuable lesson for her.
Hope that everything is going well with you and that you are handling everything to the best of your ability.. So take care,, God bless and we shall continue to keep us in your prayers
I agree with your punishment for your daughter. Almost all kids steal one time when they are young——I don’t know why. My daughter at age 6 stole the babysitter’s makeup.
Now if she were a teenager, I might be a little more worried. Hang in there and enjoy the fast dwindling pre-teenage years!